so, happy

>> marcus is says:
HI!

>> marcus is says:
HOW ARE YOU?!

x says:
what's up with the caps?

x says:
haha

x says:
i'm doing alrighty

x says:
you?

>> marcus is says:
IM FINE THANK YOU

>> marcus is says:
IM TRYING TO PERK UP MY LIFE AND CONVINCE MYSELF THAT ALL IS WITHIN MY CONTROL

>> marcus is says:
HENCE THE CAPS!

x says:
dups, nice pun

>> marcus is says:
HAHA

>> marcus is says:
IM FEELING QUITE STUPID ACTUALLY.

>> marcus is says:
DO YOU FIND ME STUPID?

x says:
i was just thinking it's a really clever thing to say

x says:
i don't mean the "do you find me stupid" sentence

x says:
i was referring to "everything is within my CTRL"

x says:
i'm not clever enough to know whether or not you're stupid

>> marcus is says:
NAH.. I'VE ALWAYS REGARDED YOU AS MY SMART FRIEND. ONE I CAN CONFIDE IN.

>> marcus is says:
ITS A COMPLIMENT.

x says:
haha yah i take it as a compliment

x says:
same to you actually

x says:
but i still won't say 'm smart

x says:
why the sudden "i feel stupid" surge?

>> marcus is says:
WAIT

>> marcus is says:
DOES FEELING OPTIMISTIC ALL THE TIME STUPID?

>> marcus is says:
I THINK IT IS.

>> marcus is says:
COS HAPPY PEOPLE ARE SMART PEOPLE. THEY ACTUALLY ARE SMART ENOUGH TO DUCK ALL THE NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

>> marcus is says:
WOW

x says:
i don't think smart people are perfect people

x says:
everyone who is not perfect have negative thoughts

x says:
it is normal to feel negative sometimes

x says:
sometimes it's not even US feeling negative, it's just some boring chromosome-whatevers that does it

>> marcus is says:
ARE YOU SOMEONE WHO IS NEGATIVE MOST TIMES?

x says:
yes

x says:
haha

>> marcus is says:
CHROMOSOME?

x says:
aiya i never took bio

>> marcus is says:
HAHAHA..SCIENCE. IM NOT SMART ENOUGH TO UNDERSTAND THAT

>> marcus is says:
LET ME ASK YOU A STUPID QUESTION. NO PUN INTENDED. IT'S REALLY STUPID.

>> marcus is says:
DO YOU WISH YOU ARE PERPATUALLY HAPPY

x says:
i was just thinking about a similar question the other day : why is life so difficult

x says:
and i came to the conclusion that even if life was easy (e.g. lotsa money to spend, parents damn generous, tests always get As, top firms want to hire me) it still won't seem entirely easy

x says:
it's probably relative, same as happiness

>> marcus is says:
WHY?

x says:
relative not to others, but to yourself

>> marcus is says:
DAMN. EVEN PONDERING ABOUT HAPPINESS IS FOR THE SMART. COS IT'S SO COMPLICATING. DON'T YOU THINK?

x says:
the fact that you find it complicating (havnig reached all the way up to the complicating stage) means you're a thinking person

x says:
i'm sure MANY people, when asked what is happiness, just shrug or not be bothered or be defeatist about it

x says:
and i'm not just giving you a politically correct answer

>> marcus is says:
YOU'RE COOL. I DIDN'T THINK ABOUT THAT. SO YOU'RE SMART. SEE!

>> marcus is says:
YAY. SO IM SMART AND SO ARE YOU.

>> marcus is says:
SIGH, BUT IM STILL NOT HAPPY. SO IT MEANS BEING SMART DOESN'T MAKE ONE HAPPY.

x says:
as i said being happy is a relative thing

x says:
trite as it may sound, being happy somehow stems from being contented

x says:
we can't always change circumstances external to us, so it is up to us to deal and perceive the circumstances that happen

>> marcus is says:
SO WHY ARE YOU STILL UNHAPPY? SINCE WHAT YOU JUST SAID SOUNDS GOOD.

x says:
because i haven't learnt how to be contented

>> marcus is says:
HAHA

>> marcus issays:
DOES IT MEAN WHEN SHIT HAPPENS, I STILL HAVE TO BE CONTENTED TO BE HAPPY?

x says:
be thankful something shittier didn't happen

>> marcus is says:
ISN'T THAT SELF DECEPTION?

x says:
but i still think that my theory is in some way delusional

x says:
yea

>> marcus is says:
LIKE I FAIL MY EXAM. YAY, AT LEAST I DONT GET ZERO.

x says:
shit happens then sht happens right

x says:
why expect to be happy when shit happens?

>> marcus is says:
SO IF SHIT HAPPENS EVERYDAY, THERE'S NO WAY TO BE HAPPY?

>> marcus is says:
GAH! WHY?

>> marcus is says:
GOD PLEASE OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND TELL ME!

x says:
aiyah shit happens so that you nkow what being happy is about

x says:
if shit never happens then what is happiness?
x says:
happiness becomes a constant, which is kinda boring right

>> marcus is says:
SO IT'S A SAD WORLD AFTER ALL. WE NEED TO BE SAD FIRST BEFORE KNOWING WHAT IS HAPPY? WE NEED TO HAVE PAIN INFLICTED ON US FIRST BEFORE WE KNOW WHAT IS BLISS?

>> marcus is says:
AND WE NEED TO BE HATED FIRST TO KNOW WHAT IS LOVE?

x says:
i only agree with the first sentence

x says:
because happiness is an emotion, it comes in a matter of degree

x says:
and happiness and sadness belongs to the same scale

x says:
whereas hatred is a different emotion altogether from love

>> marcus is says:
WHY? IT'S ON THE SAME SCALE NO? HATE BEING ZERO, NEUTRAL BEING 5 AND LOVE BEING 10.

x says:
not in my opinion. just because they're frequently used to oppose each other, doesn't mean they are on the same scale

x says:
don't know la i may just be wrong, as i always am

x says:
but i certainly don't agree that you have to experience hate before you can experience love

x says:
similarly, you don't have to experience hate in order to APPRECIATE love

x says:
BUT, you may have to experience sadness before you can APPRECIATE happiness

>> marcus is says:
REALLY?

x says:
i can love someonw without hating someone what

>> marcus is says:
HMM? BUT WHY CAN'T YOU BE HAPPY WITHOUT BEING UNHAPPY?

>> marcus is says:
LOOK AT A BABY.

x says:
you can be happy without being unhappy! you just won't realise that's being happy

x says:
happy is contrasted/compared with sadness what

x says:
e.g. i'm happy when i don't have to goto sch versus i am not happy when i have to go to sch

x says:
if i don't have to og to sch everyday anyway, then i won't appreciate the fact that i don't have to go to sch!

x says:
this argument may not apply to each and every situation when you experience happines/sadness but i think it's pretty broad in application

>> marcus is says:
OK

>> marcus is says:
I ALSO DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY.

>> marcus is says:
LASY TO THINK LE.

x says:
haha

x says:
ok

x says:
anyway i gtg slp cos i have togo to sch tmr

x says:
early

>> marcus is says:
OK

x says:
sigh=unhappy=would be happy if i didn't have to go to sch

x says:
ciao

>> marcus is says:
BE CONTENTED THAT YOU HAVE SCHOOL.

>> marcus is says:
THEN YOU'LL BE HAPPY

>> marcus is says:
HAVE A HAPPY DAY

x says:
good one

>> marcus is says:
THINK ABOUT THOSE WHO DON'T HAVE THE CHANCE TO LEARN

>> marcus is says:
GOOD DAY AND GOOD NIGHT.

>> marcus is says:
:)

x says:
thanks, same to you





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just had hearty chats with friend x and y separately.
both are very dear friends of mine.
thought that the conversations were interesting and thought-provoking.
here's the one with friend x.